Recovering from Surgery. Five Things I Learned.

The biggest source of growth comes from the challenges we face. In this post I reflect on what I learnt through the process of surgery and medical intervention.


During 2017 I faced a number of health challenges. When I found out I was due to have surgery it felt like a big deal. It was serious, it was invasive and it meant that I would have to take some time off all movement.

When the doctor gave me the news I felt a sense of dread but was surprised to feel a mix of euphoria and gratefulness too.  One of my greatest fears was in front of me and yet I was still standing. What’s more, I knew deep down that I could deal with what would come next.

The week before my surgery I bowed down at my meditation altar and opened myself up to the events that were about to unfold. I knew that this surgery was a test and a challenge. A chance for me to face up to things that terrified me and to come out the other side a stronger woman.

And do you know what? I was right! Although this was one of the greatest trials in my life I came through the process stronger, wiser, more resilient and have learned so many lessons.

Here are my top five:

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Does ‘The One’ Exist?

Many of us are searching for ‘The One’. The other half to our whole.

The question is…do they really exist?

I spend much of my week delivering sex and relationships workshops and I often witness a preoccupation amongst both young and older women on finding ‘The One’. Although a romantic at heart, I worry about the impact that this has on female wellbeing.

In Western society, the notion of ‘The One’ is held in high regard and is yet another ideal pushed onto women as something they should believe. We see the same story repeated in modern media time again, often in the form of Rom Coms e.g. scatty girl who can’t get her s**t together meets a hot guy, sparks fly and her life changes forever as she is now complete *cringe*.

It’s no different from the Disney stories of yesteryear when the princess would wait for her prince charming to carry her off into the sunset so she can finally be happy. Unfortunately, we’re still being fed this homogenous representation of how romantic unions should begin.

As spicy as mind-blowing instant chemistry sounds, for many of us, long-term partnerships start as slow burners…an initial compatibility which builds over time into a strong, steady and fulfilling bond.

I feel that focusing on finding ‘The One’ sets us up for somewhat unrealistic expectations of a blissful and instantaneous union based on artificial portrayals. It also perpetuates the belief that a female cannot be whole by herself and needs to find her ‘missing piece’ to be content when in fact women are complete, whole and amazing beings already!

I do, however, believe in soul mates/soul connections which are deeply intense relationships in which two people feel inexplicably linked. In fact, I believe that my husband is one of my soul mates. Despite this, I think that soul mates can just as easily come in the form of family members or friends.

I put this eternally unanswered question this out to Shakti Bloom readers and here’s what they had to say:

Does ‘The One’ exist?

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Top Tips To Travel With Ease

For many of us, travelling is a chore simply to be endured in order to experience far-flung and exotic lands. Often, the thought of a long-haul journey adds a bitter taste to an otherwise delectable trip. Happy, healthy and relaxed travel can be found by following these straightforward tips.


1. Upgrade your take off

If you are a nervous flyer take off (and landing) can be the worst parts of your journey. Instead of sitting nervously biting your nails, beat the jitters by using the time to get some much-needed meditation on board. Start by tuning in with your breath, inhaling for a count of four and exhaling for a count of four. This simple breathing exercise is a really straightforward and uncomplicated way to calm the mind and provide a focal point.


2. Stay healthy onboard

As fun as it is to load up on a bunch of snacks before and during the flight, it will do absolutely nothing for your gut, your nervous system or your energy levels. Avoid the post-flight sugar crash by passing on the booze, pretzels, and caffeine. Instead, get some hydration on board aiming for a glass of water an hour. Pack your carry on with nuts, fruit, and seeds to keep you going and make sure to buy some sugar-free ginger lozenges and fennel tea bags in case nausea strikes.


3. Beat the bugs

Being up in the air can play havoc with our sinuses meaning that sometimes we exit the plane with the dreaded throat tickle or worse still a full-blown cold. Make sure to line your nasal passages with coconut oil every hour. Simply pop some oil on the end of your finger and swish it around your nostrils. This will line your nasal passage, stop it drying out and act as a barrier to potential allergens.


4. Breathe Deep

Take off and landing doesn’t have to be the only time you get your breath work on. Take the opportunity of being held captive to do your very own aromatherapy steam. Simply add a few drops of peppermint and eucalyptus oil to some boiling water and breathe. Both oils are well-known for their therapeutic properties and can help ease headaches, sinusitis, and congestion which are common side effects of flying.

Happy Holidays! Let me know how you get on with your flying!

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Time to give up the scales? Why weighing yourself may be bad for your health.

Many swear by their week weigh-ins but chances are, your scales are causing you more stress than you think. Find out how to ditch the scales today!

Following the seemingly obligatory Christmas binge, many people are working hard this January to shed the post festive bulge. I too indulged somewhat over the holidays but I am enjoying getting back into the swing of my everyday routine.

A lot of my clients ask me what I think their ‘ideal’ weight is if and I can help them shed ‘X’ amount. Of course, I am happy and willing to support clients lose weight and tone up but I will never weigh them as part of the process nor will I encourage them to weigh themselves.

A few weeks ago I was in the shower room at the gym when I overheard a saddening conversation. A young girl aged around 9 of average height and build weighed herself on the communal scale and told her female caregiver her weight.

The ladies reply was along the lines of:

 ”Oh no you’ve put on weight! OK, that’s fine for now, but you have to be careful not to put on any more weight too quickly”

It deeply disturbed me that a growing girl (who was not overweight) putting on some size was a topic of discussion and I will admit I had to grit my teeth and mind my own business.

I would imagine that most women in the Western world have been concerned by the numbers displayed on a set of scales at one point or another. Most of us are able to maintain a somewhat healthy relationship with our weighing machines but for others, it becomes a fixation with daily and sometimes hourly weigh-ins taking place.

Personally, I think that these apparatus play a very dangerous role in the lives of women often creating a yo-yo set of emotions depending on the digits displayed.

My mum didn’t keep scales in our house so I remember my first time getting weighed quite distinctively. A doctor took my vitals and declared that I ‘overweight’. I was flabbergasted, particularly as I was teaching four fitness classes per week and also doing my own workouts.

“Do I look overweight to you?” I asked, my temper flaring.

“Well… no” the doctor replied.

“Actually you don’t, but the BMI chart says you are so I’ve got to advise you to do more exercise and to eat less.

Me aged 20 #tbt #fashionfail

After that, I vowed never to step on a pair of scales again and I nearly succeeded until the months before my wedding when I wanted to get as fit as possible for my big day.

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Finding Your Edge

Modern life is all go go go but theres something to be said for slowing things down.

Find out how to take a step back and find your edge.

There’s a lovely term within the yoga teacher world known as ‘finding your edge’. It encapsulates the moment where you challenge your body whilst also respecting its natural limitations.

Within the modern world, there’s a tendency to feel that more equals better and that in order to be a success we must push past our maximum. We look up to world class athletes (and more recently insta famous fitness personalities) as an ideal of physical fitness which encourages us to push ourselves as far as we can go.

Whilst it’s fantastic to feel motivated it’s also important to proceed within your limits and to respect your body. Let’s not forget that these amazing athletes often have to retire from their chosen sport at an extremely young age (in the scheme of life). These folks have spent many years going beyond their edge in order to achieve peak performance which is completely different from achieving everyday health.

This idea of ‘finding your edge’ can be transferred from physical activity to all facets of life. As inspiring as extreme high achievers may be, I personally believe aiming for record breaking excellence on a daily basis is not a necessity. Of course, there are times where we need to work hard and up our game but this needn’t be our default mode.

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Top Tips For Finding A Hobby!

Having a hobby is not only fun, it’s good for your health. Find out how to get one now!

I love to move!

I adore stretching, bending, flexing, pushing, pulling and everything in between and often experience a sense of euphoria whilst in motion.

Growing up I loved making up dance routines to All Saints and S Club 7 and you couldn’t get me off of the dance floor at the end of term disco. I studied dance at secondary school and I joined the gym at aged 17 after a few too many late junk filled nights. I started off slowly, dabbling with a bit of cardio, then weights and eventually classes.

Fast forward ten years and now I move (and help others move) for a living! My favourite types of movement are dance (of course), yoga, cycling and strength training but over the years I’ve tried my hand at (and enjoyed) boxing, rock climbing, trampoline, sports, HIIT training and much more.

Whenever I’ve had a particularly stressful day the worst thing I can do for myself is come home and sit down on the sofa. Whatever negative emotion I’m experiencing will sit in my body like a pile of rocks unless I physically do something to shake it out. Whenever I get out and move I feel a million times better and for that twenty minutes, 1/2 hour, hour … real life is suspended and the pattern of movement is all that matters.

In today’s world, we are constantly busy working and moving from one ‘important’ task to the next. I believe having a hobby that creates an unbridled sense of joy is an imperative part of our contemporary human existence.

Having a hobby is not only fun, it’s good for your health. Partaking in an activity that you enjoy and absorbs your mind can decrease stress and anxiety levels. Research carried out by Annals of Behavioural Medicine has shown that those who participate in leisure activities feel 34% less stressed than those who don’t. What’s more, many report feeling happier and calmer hours after participating in their chosen pastime.

So, how do we find a hobby? Check out my easy to follow tips below:

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The Dementor & The Case of Extreme Negativity

Why is it that some people make you feel absolutely great and yet others make you feel the exact opposite?

We all know negative people…the individuals who simply exude bad vibes and make everyone around them feel low, lethargic and dejected. I like to refer to these people as Dementors; the characters present in the Harry Potter series.


They infest the darkest, filthiest places, they glory in decay and despair, they drain peace, hope, and happiness out of the air around them… Get too near a Dementor and every good feeling, every happy memory will be sucked out of you. If it can, the Dementor will feed on you long enough to reduce you to something like itself… soulless and evil. You will be left with nothing but the worst experiences of your life.“- J.K. Rowling

Some may think this is a strong description but I do not take Ms Rowling’s words lightly! Of course, we all have down days but sadly, there are folks who spend their time sucking the joy and happiness out of their physical environment.

Have a think about everyone you know. Think of your family, friends, colleagues and your wider circle. Who do you love being around? Who makes you feel good and why?

Have you thought of someone?

If you have, I bet you have a massive smile on your face right now. I can think of those type of people in a heartbeat, the ones that can make me beam on a down day and are simply a pleasure to be around.

Now, think of someone who is the exact opposite. Who do you have in life that makes you feel low just by being in their presence? Do you have a neighbour that gives you shivers but you don’t know why or a friend who simply cannot bring herself to be happy for you when you receive a new promotion?

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